Sunday, August 29, 2010

Online Fact vs. Online Fiction


Hey guys. I was just changing all my passwords since an ex-roomie of mine got into my e-mail and started messing with all my stuff, and I was looking at some of the sites that I am on. It got me to thinking about what seems to have been the theme of the week in my life, truth vs. fiction. The internet is one great big story book where we can be who we want to be and say what we want to say. There are the people who say one thing online when there is no reflection of that truth in their day to day lives. Hook-Up sites are a prime example of this. Houston, while having a huge gay community, everyone knows everyone. So the guys I see out at the bars and clubs are the ones I see on Adam4Adam, Manhunt, and Grindr. Most of the time what I see in the bars is not what is presented to me on-line!
(I guess as a porn star this is me the pot calling the kettle black, since I don't know any of us that aren't in someways different from our online persona.)
The reason I bring this up is that over the course of the last year I have seen men come and go, whether they be the tricks of the Wylers, dates of Logan, or new "Friends" of Dash or Alejandro. It got me to thinking what these guys see in the men they bring home, so I got online to check it out. The jocks usually are average, the average usually are a bit chubby. (I'm not trying to be a cunt about this at all, just an observation.) This also leads me into what Logan says when it comes to dick size. "Is that eight real inches or eight internet inches?" It makes me wonder if part of the gay obsession to look like a Abercrombie and Fitch model is being fueled by sites like these. So many people on there demand perfection when they themselves are average guys. (Hey, nothing wrong with that! If we were all super hot, I'd be out of a job!) But how can someone be 5'10, 240 lbs and say cut guys only? How can someone be 45 and say no one over 30? No Black! (Not racist just a preference.)
It seems like a very self loathing thing if you ask me. You should love who you are. If you're a big boy, own it or change it! And race preference, I don't understand that... What if your soul mate isn't your "type". What if the guy who was meant for you, has a beer gut, but you don't even talk to him when he comes up to you to say hi because of it? So you spend your life sorting through all the assholes when he is right in front of you but you won't give him the time of day. I think I may have gone off on a tangent from online lying, but thats my two cents on "types" who says your Mister Right isn't your type. There is a soul inside that body that could be the most beautiful thing you've ever seen.
Well, maybe that wasn't a tangent. Maybe the idea of type and online fibbing are connected? I once heard "Be the guy you want to be with." So is that why we smudge a few few facts? I mean in the end we do find out about the flaws and the white lies don't we? I mean lets take for example this ad I found on Adam4Adam:

I know for a fact a lot of guys around town have talked to Logan or seen him out. So, they can pinpoint the exact same things I did in his ad. (And before your crucify me, I had his permission to post this.) I think Logan is a great guy and think guys should get to know him, but what does it say the first time you meet him out and you can spot obvious misrepresentation of the facts in the manner he chose to present him self. I think it shows that he is hiding something or not confident in who he is. (Confidence IS a turn on boys.) Granted some of these may be slight oversights in anyone's profile but if you can log in every day you can change your info and in 2010 even the crappiest of cellphones have cameras boys.
So if you're a Jock - You're a Jock.
If you're Average -You're Average
If you have a 4 inch dick, it is what it is.
Lets be honest with ourselves and each other. A chubby honest guy is much more attractive than a chubby liar. Just like a Nice jock is better than a douche bag jock. Personality and honesty will get you a long way. So let's put on our smiles and fix our profiles and give everyone a chance to shine!


Peace Out Bro Scouts,
Porter Wescott

1 comment:

  1. Great post. It's very true that people for some reason, can't be honest about themselves over the internet.

    It's very common thing for people to polish some facts about themselves to make other people interested.

    But what can person do, other than wish that people would have courage to be open and honest, right?

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